Stop Being a Dick

 

In trying to become the best parents we can, we teach our children from an early age that it’s actually not ok to make fun of someone. Hurting other children’s feelings is never ok. The importance of never putting someone down in taught. If our wonderful children don’t have anything nice to say, we urge them to not say anything at all.  In school, at home, or wherever else they may go, be nice to others we say.

In my brief stint as a parent, guess who copies everything I do or say? If I swear guess who picks up a swear word? If I get a snack guess who else wants a snack? That’s right, my children. We are such hypocritical assholes. I’ve always wondered why children could be so mean. I understand it now. Some people can absolutely be the rudest, most disrespectful, passive aggressive people out there.  We want our children to be nice but we aren’t willing to follow suit.

There are grown adults who feel the need to put others down like it’s their fucking job. They feel the need to belittle people, hurt them, or try to destroy them. In somehow, some shape or some form, instead of talking about how cool people are, they talk about how terrible these people are. They talk about the weaknesses and faults, instead of the abilities and talents these individuals have as if Satan himself had entered the building. 

People, “hear” something and proclaim it to be the gospel truth. Instead of taking things with a grain of salt, whatever is said in the heat of the moment becomes reality.  Since when did everything that was put on the internet or TV become the truth? Did we lose track of our ability to actually think before we react? The fire becomes fueled and instead of putting it out, we ignite it. Logs, gasoline, and whatever other igniter we can think of is thrown on the fire, all because we heard something.  Rarely if ever do we go to the source.

Let’s get something clear as well, being passive aggressive is still mean. Just because you don’t have the balls to say what you actually mean to the persons face, doesn’t make it ok. We all to a certain extent, become keyboard warriors. We hide behind the computer and are champions in our mind. We write something and screenshot our friends, so we can show them how, “cool” we are. Our friends write us back and say, “hell yeah, I can’t believe you wrote that. You’re the shit!” We perpetuate the cycle and things continue. However, the things we write would never have been something we would have said to an individual.  A dear friend of mine told me, we should never write something that we wouldn’t be able to confront an individual about.

There’s a certain sense of entitlement we feel. We believe we are better than someone if they don’t talk to us the way we want to be talked to or if they don’t do the things we believe they should do. We may have a job that pays more so we consider ourselves a higher class. In our narcissistic minds, we believe we are better than someone. It’s never ok to think that. Guess what you’re not better than me and I’m not better than you.

Lastly, we all each of have our own faults. It’s a fact, none of us our perfect. You can sit their with your small mind and believe your fault is not as big a deal as another’s or you can understand we all have them and we should be loving others for theirs. Maybe just maybe, instead of putting someone down, you should try and lift them up.  Maybe we should heed our own advice and be kind. Kindness and understanding have become such a rarity these days. Be the one that breaks out of that cycle. Be the bold one in the group that doesn’t go with the flow when someone is being put down. Just be a good human and love those no matter what. Stop being a dick and start being a nice kind human for once.